In Raw Grief and Anger

Take a moment to breathe and be still, no matter what is going on inside you right now. As you breathe, you might like to stretch the out breath to bring you some relief… That’s it. Soften the focus of your eyes as you breathe and allow whatever is here in this moment.

There may be many thoughts and feelings flowing through you right now as you stop and focus here for a moment. Or, you may be exhausted, drained, or numb. Whatever is here, notice it and allow it to be here. Whatever is here is here for a reason. It is valid. It is important. It deserves to be held gently and with love.

As a relationship ends, raw grief and anger are inevitable. When you also feel betrayed or deceived, your pain is amplified. Give yourself this time to simply be with the emotions that are calling for your attention right now. You may find that your mind has been racing, replaying thoughts, memories, soundtracks… This is natural…

To find relief, bring your attention to the emotions underneath those thoughts, memories and soundtracks. As you step away from what has happened, and the mind’s attempts to fix it, you will find soothing. As you turn your attention to the pure, raw emotions underneath the events, your pain will ease.

Little by little, you will find your way back to the strength and wholeness at the core of your being. This is the truth of who you are.

So as you sit or lie here, breathing in and breathing out and out and out and out and out… allow whatever is here to be here, noticing thoughts and sensations in your body, without needing to explain them or change them or rationalise them. Just allow whatever is here to be here as you breathe, with soft eyes.

Allow yourself to become aware of what emotions might be here, driving those thoughts and sensations. Perhaps there is sadness, grief, loss… it’s ok… just allow those emotions as you breathe, with soft eyes, in this safe space.

You may feel a sense of brokenness or failure, or aloneness or despair. You may feel humiliation or self doubt, separation or abandonment. Perhaps there is a sense of being unloved, or even unlovable. It’s ok. These emotions are not the truth of who you are - they are quite the opposite in fact.

There may be anger, rage, fury, resentment, blame. Allow all these emotions. You have every right to feel them. Allow them to be here, now, as you breathe with soft eyes. These emotions are healthy responses to what has happened. And they are NOT the truth of who you are.

These emotions are guiding you Home to the powerhouse of brilliance and love at your core. Even in the worst of the pain that you feel, somehow you know that you are far greater than this. That you are worthy, confident and free. That no one has the power to truly dim your joy.

With every painful emotion you feel, no matter how raw, you know, deep inside, that your truth is its opposite. The more it hurts, the further from your truth the feeling is. As you allow the emotions, without trying to change them, as you give them space to be, you bring yourself soothing, you find an inner calm, you find the source of love and strength inside yourself.

As you breathe in… allow all emotion to be here.
Breathe out and out and out… gently breathe those emotions - outside yourself.
Breathe in… allow emotion.
Breathe them out and out and out and out.

And bringing your attention to whatever is inside you now, choose a colour to soothe and steady you. A colour that will bring relief.

Breathe that colour in through your heart… and out from your heart. Let it fill every cell and sinew.
Breathing it in… breathing it out…

Allow yourself time to come back to this soothing. It will take time for the waves of emotion to flow through. Breathe colour in through your heart… breathe it out and out and out… You may need a few days to bring yourself fully into balance. Make peace with the time your heart may take to feel complete. It needs time to come Home to itself.

You are doing so well. You are finding your way back to your calm, steady confidence. Allow colour to soothe and carry you there. As you activate colour, you release the thinking mind - relief always follows.

That’s it.

Breathing colour in… breathing it out…. sending it into the next part of your day. Imagine the colour bathing you, holding you cradling you, comforting you, distracting you gently from the thoughts that bring you pain.

That’s it.

With each day of focus, you bring yourself more fully into alignment with the strength at your core. As you long for the freedom and smiling, the ease and satisfaction of that version of you who has triumphed over grief, allow yourself to imagine her, even fleeting glimpses, from a distance have great power. She is there calling you forward, reminding you of what you know. You are worthy. You are good. You are beloved. You are the love that you need.

Now bring your attention back into this space… take a deep breath in… and let it out… open your eyes and continue with your day.